DEC 13 25: The Evolution of the Inner Parent
Robert opens with a grounding blessing and frames the mini-workshop as adult-only guidance for healing childhood trauma through the “Call2Parent” approach within ACA. He outlines the community’s free resources—meetings, workshops, and podcasts—and establishes key concepts: dysregulation, co-regulation, and the crucial distinction between inner and outer worlds. After reviewing the “classic” loving-parent model, he explains why it often stalls: porous boundaries and swallowed childhood anger keep the inner critic abusive and the teen defiant. Robert maps an evolution from Loving Parent to Tough-Loving and ultimately Guardian Parent, emphasizing a firm, authoritative voice that sets impenetrable, non-negotiable boundaries with the critic while staying attuned and limit-setting with the teen. He shares personal turning points (a panic attack, a decisive “Palo Alto lunch” boundary) and introduces a 30‑day homework to practice a resolute “Stop” stance, with a Jan 17 follow-up Zoom. The session concludes with Q&A on resilience, safety, IFS, enmeshment, and practical boundary-setting.
Workshop Video
You can scroll along the progress bar at the bottom of the video screen to navigate the chapters – times listed below….
Chapters
00:00:00 – Introduction: New to C2P…?/Universal Dilemma/Purpose
00:29:37 – Set The Stage: Parallel Worlds
00:49:56 – “Classic” Parenting Process
01:02:04 – What’s Going On…? (Porous Boundaries & Swallowed Anger)
01:22:26 – What Do Experts Say About Parenting Bio Kids…?
01:24:59 – The Trauma-Informed Inner Parent
01:48:05 – Dealing With Critic and Teen
02:18:36 – Homework / JAN 17th Follow-Up Zoom #1
02:20:53 – Q&A
Workshop Audio
30-Day Homework Assignment:
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15 Days Into the Homework Assignment
15-Day Homework Progress “Questions to Consider”:
As you engage and proceed through in the original 30-day assignment above, at the 15-day mark…check your progress with these “Questions to Consider”…
JAN 17 26 Evolving Parent: Homework Session
Robert opens a Q&A for his “Evolution of the Inner Parent” homework, centering on ending the inner critic’s abuse by birthing a tough loving parent. After a grounding prayer and breaths, he recaps the assignment: escalate firm “stop” boundaries as with any abusive outer world relationship. Participants share experiences: Teresa struggles to access anger and notices a subtle, limiting critic; Martin reports progress and the critic’s waning power amid simultaneous teen activation; Aiello surfaces deep shame tied to body and sexual trauma; Linda explores distractibility vs. criticism and considers life force; J. Hung confronts enmeshment with parents and problematic therapy; LL describes grief that follows recognizing victimization. Robert reviews root cause (porous boundaries), primary factor (swallowed anger), and other contributors (benevolent myths about the critic, fawning/pivoting). He distinguishes inner vs. outer world work, floats a carefully bounded role play support group, mentions trauma informed methods (including plant medicine), and previews a follow up workshop focused on the teenager.
Homework Session Video
Homework Session Audio
Transforming Childhood Trauma Into Wholeness 